Dick Move, Shaun
Posted by: Shaun in Gaming, Response, tags: apology, podcast, retraction, shaun's a dickSo, last night was my usual Shadowrun game night. One of my players called me up early, asked for a ride, and said that he wanted to talk to Kristin and I before the game started, and before everyone else got there. We BSed for a while, and then, before we got ready to play, he explained to us that we had hurt him during Episode 8 of our podcast.
He was absolutely right to do so.
See, we didn’t really think about what it was we were doing when we brought up the situation in question during the show. It was relevant to the topic that we were covering, and we just thought of it as an illustration of the topic. We failed, however to consider how it would make him look, especially considering that he’s active on a number of forums - at least one of which has listeners of our show on it.
While it wasn’t our intention to cast anyone in a negative light, looking back on it, and re-listening to the audio, I realize that that is precisely what we did. And I completely blame myself for it. Fortunately, the player in question is a big enough guy to differentiate between intent and deed, and that is something to be appreciated in any friend. I’m glad that our fuck up didn’t ruin a good gaming group, much less a great friendship.
I could go forth with a sappy apology here, but I’ve done that in person. The real lesson here is for other podcasters, bloggers, and forum posters. Remember, you’re players aren’t just case-studies. They’re your friends, too. Consider their position before you talk about them. Get their side of the story. Most of all, think about how you’d feel if someone talked about you the way I talked about my friend, especially when you have the entirety of the Internet as a potential consumer of your content.
Don’t be an asshole like I was. Friends can only take so much before they decide it’s better to leave both your game and your life.
